It occurred to me last year as I was getting my senior ready for graduation and then to ultimately leave the nest, that I still had a lot to share with her.
I wanted her to know how to live on her own. How to be successfully independent. How to be safe.
Of course, I’d done my due diligence and taught her a multitude of things to ensure as smooth of a transition as possible.
But I just kept getting a nagging feeling that I was missing something. Something big.
So, I turned to my email subscriber community for their thoughts on what they wish they’d known before leaving for college. I got some amazing answers to the question and was able to pass some along to my teenager.
I hope their answers help you when it’s time for your teen to leave home, too!
What do you wish you knew before heading to college?
I’m thankful my parents made sure I new how to:
- do laundry
- do banking (setting up a local account, how to withdraw and deposit)
I wish I had known more about:
- signs that I was in academic trouble (the smoke before the fire)
- And then, how to ask for help.
- how to form study groups (we did not do that back then)
My parents were very “detached” from the kids, our troubles/concerns, preparing us for life.
I wish I would’ve known more about budgeting my money.
I wish I knew I did NOT have to have an answer to “What are you going to do with your life?”
Those answers are daunting for an 18-year-old and having that pressure off seems like it would provide other opportunities. The better question for adults to ask adolescents: What is your joy?
I feel like that question might provide more introspection and self-awareness, providing an even better leg up in the adult world.
I wish someone told me I didn’t have to have everything figured out when I first started college!
I wish I’d been encouraged to get more involved with campus activities and clubs. I think feeling connected is what keeps students in school. I definitely felt that, but was limited in the pathways I chose. I wish I explored more options.
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